23 Gay Sex Ed Lessons I Wish I Had Learned in High School

A gay sex expert offers tips, tricks, and sage advice for the next generation.

Let’s all agree on something: High school is awful. Read more below.

A word of warning from Alexander Cheves

1. You may be headed into a LOT of sex.

2. Your first gay sex experience might not be pleasant.

3. Straight people will only teach you about straight sex.

4. Being a bottom doesn’t make you “the girl.”

5. Being gay doesn't mean you’re going to die of AIDS.

6. Being a top doesn’t make you less gay.

7. Gay sex isn’t what you seen in porn.

8. Locate your nearest LGBT center.

9. You’re going to get an STD.

10. Sexually transmitted infections are not a value judgment. They are inevitable part of being sexually active.

11. Develop an honest rapport with a physician you trust.

12. Locate your nearest health department or community health clinic.

13. You don’t have to know what you want out of sex.

14. Gay sex isn’t how straight people describe it.

15. Getting fucked feels really good.

16. Gay sex takes physical preparation.

17. Gay sex takes mental preparation.

18. PrEP.

19. STDs are not worth paralyzing fear or abstaining from sex.

20. You'll encounter drugs and alcohol. Know the risks.

21. HIV isn’t what you think it is.

22. Being kinky doesn’t make you bad, dangerous, or abnormal.

23. Gay sex is beautiful.

23 Gay Sex Ed Lessons I Wish I Had Learned in High School

A gay sex expert offers tips, tricks, and sage advice for the next generation.